reality, like water which takes the shape of the container it is poured into,  morphs into the mind of the person it flows into. how would a container know if it is a container which doesn't have the know shape ?
thankfully, minds are plastic. yet, the more time spent in a shape, the greater the resistance of that mind to get out of that shape, and more rejecting of different experiences it becomes.
way out ?
if you malleably copy people, you will behave, and be responded to accordingly, as per that behavior which you copied, which is not yours.
if you like the response, you can move to make it yours by doing more of it.